All I can think about is how just yesterday I was 20,and yes, I know I’m still young but birthdays have a way of filling you with a whole sense of foreboding. You get a glimpse of your past and try to transport yourself into your future. The future you want. At least that’s what happens to me. But at 23 I’ve learnt a few things that I’d like all 20 something’s to hear.

  • Relationships.

Some people come into your life for a time, some come to stay, some don’t even last while others, well, they were never supposed to be there in the first place. But they all are there for a reason and once you learn what that is, then you move on or do whatever is keeping you glued on that spot. This is the time to experience all the gory stuff because after this, all you have is the experience . The time gets thinner especially for those on timelines.

  • Disappointments.

They say a man’s strength is judged by how many times he falls but still gets up. Better yet, how long he stays down after a fight. That’s you right there. Embrace the disappointments. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and just beyond the hills is a silver lining for your dark cloud. You ain’t gonna see it if you don’t get up and start moving.

  • Dreams.

We keep dreaming everyday. And everyday we add a little bit onto those dreams. They drive you.Don’t forget. When everything else is so foggy at the back of your head, your dreams stay clear as day. You need them. You need them more than anything so dont forget that every time you start to doubt yourself. The crazier or more colourful the better for you. You will go places with those dreams. Just be brave and go for it.

  • Love.

I don’t know what to say here but you won’t experience it if you are too scared to fall in love. So allow yourself to fall hopelessly in love, get lost in it, because then and only then, will you know what it really is. The perfect matches have been known to do great things. You have time but not too much.

  • Friends and family.

You just know when you have them. We all need them. To act as confidantes or partners In crime and most of all, voices of reason when we can’t trust our own. You keep them close because you will need them through your life. The twenties aren’t murky . it gets murkier. So if you have them don’t forget to tell them and show them how important they are. And that you love them. You can catch a grenade for them too while at it.Everyone has family, we may take it for granted but don’t forget that’s where it all begun.

  • Muses.

Last but not least. Everyone needs a muse. Because you never know just how much you have In you until the perfect inspiration comes along. If they don’t know it, once in a while find a way to let them know just how inspirational they are.

So, Its a new year, I may not know where I am going but this is a start, acknowledging where I have been.God bless this year and bless you all.


  1. Brian Muguro · November 30, 2016

    That’s good advice there, awesome read Stella

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Brian Muguro · November 30, 2016

    Now that’s good advice, thanks Stella.

    Liked by 1 person

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